On Shabbat I will be in New York celebrating the Ufruf of our dear son Chaim Meir. On the Shabbat prior to the wedding it is customary for the groom to be honored with an Aliya at the Torah accompanied with a celebration. This is called an Ufruf. The Torah reading of Shabbat is the blessing and guidance granted to us for the coming week. As marriage marks the beginning of a new life for the young couple, it is imperative for them to receive guidance and blessing from the Torah and to set down the foundations of their new home accordingly.
In this week’s parsha, Shemini, we learn how to define kosher animals, fish and fowl. Kosher fish have fins and scales. Our sages teach that aquatic creatures that possess these features (1) dwell in the upper, clearer part of the waters, living in an environment with more oxygen and (2) have a spine. So a kosher fish swims against the current in cleaner waters.
We are what we eat. Consuming kosher food inspires and allows us to acquire the positive traits possessed by it.
Be a kosher fish. There is always the possibility of dwelling in murky waters. It may be skeletons of the past or current vices we struggle with on a daily basis. Have the strength to transcend the past and the negativity of today and dwell on opportunities and a positive vision for the future. Be sure to inhale the oxygen of Torah and allow yourself to be enlightened by its guidance.
Additionally, be prepared to resist the temptation of going with the flow. Society is inclined to follow the popular trend but Jews usually need to swim against the current. The first Jew was called “Avraham HaIvri.” HaIvri means “the one on the other side”. As the entire world descended into pagan chaos he courageously raised the banner and introduced awareness of G-d to anyone that would listen. It is for this reason that He was beloved by G-d and his family chosen to be His ambassadors to the world. Never be intimidated that Torah values and behaviors are unpopular.
The festival of Pesach celebrates these same lessons. The Jewish people were enslaved by an evil tyrant yet they refused to dwell on their unfortunate circumstances. They resisted the temptation of assimilating to Egyptian culture, followed Moses to the dessert and joyously received the Torah 50 days later at Sinai. Historically our nation proudly resisted the numerous trends, cultures, ideologies and the like that challenged and continue to challenge our commitment to Judaism.
This is our blessing to our children Chaim Meir and Chaya. May you merit to build your home in a spirit of joy and positivity always anchored to the timeless lessons of the Torah. Have the strength to overcome any challenges you may encounter on the way and be a source of inspiration to your environment.
May we all apply these crucial lessons and merit to the ultimate redemption with the arrival of Moshiach.