A newborn baby cries. It prefers to remain enveloped in the warmth and safety of the womb so the mother can eat, sleep and breathe on its behalf and doesn't want to be independent. But birth happens regardless, with all of the pain and joy associated with it, and the infant now plays an independent role in the world.
This Tuesday (25 Menachem Av) I celebrate my 60th birthday. I’m grateful to G-d for reaching this milestone and for the many blessings in my life, but I think it’s important to reflect on the meaning of a birthday beyond the celebration.
Jewish tradition refers to a birthday as a personal “Rosh Hashanah.” Just as humanity collectively commemorates the anniversary of Adam’s creation as a fresh start to a new year, every individual marks their own birthday as a refreshing beginning of something new and special. The day you received G-d’s mandate to make a unique impact on the world.
Similar to childbirth, independence is very painful but there is no greater joy than making a difference in your own unique way. Sixty years ago I came to the world under frightening circumstances. My parents were trapped in Soviet Russia and their steadfast observance of Judaism placed them at high risk of being imprisoned at any moment and us children being whisked away to government foster homes. Miraculously we immigrated to Israel when I was 5 and I had the great fortune of having a proper Jewish education and spending many glorious years studying in Brooklyn in close proximity to the Rebbe. I was privileged to hear the Rebbe teach Torah for over 10 years and a central theme of his talks was about the importance of being a leader. The definition of a leader is not limited to one who holds public office or leads a team of sorts. Every single human being, by dint of their individuality, is a de-facto leader with the ability to elevate, inspire and better their environment. To celebrate past accomplishments is nice, but upon deeper reflection, the deeds of the past are insufficient and independence requires you to assume responsibility and take initiative. On a birthday one should reflect on the painful insufficiencies of the past, but be inspired and excited by the opportunities of the coming year, because true leaders think about the future and not the past. Dear friends, As I give thanks to G-d for 60 years of life I pray for another 60 years of continued health, happiness, growth and accomplishment. I request that you do the same on your birthday. Realize the potential you have as an individual in the world and reflect on ways you can make the world a better place. Increase in your Torah study and Mitzvah observance. Whether it’s religious observances like wrapping Tefillin, lighting Shabbat candles and eating kosher, or Mitzvot that promote goodness and kindness among people. May G-d bless you with much physical, material and spiritual goodness and we should merit to welcome Moshiach who will usher in an era of true world peace and tranquility.